eye contact is a really hard thing for me too. growing up, i constantly had people saying "look at me when im speaking to you!" and they would grab my chin/face and force me to look towards their face.. and also in middle school i was told to stop "stareing" and that i was bothering other students, and if i didnt stop i would be in trouble... now sometimes people will tell me to look at them. its still really hard to make eye contact, but i have noticed that when talking i dont need to make eye contact(unless they are wanting to see if im telling the truth (and somehow not making eye contact is interpreted by meaning "what shes saying is a lie"). however i look at the person when im not talking, and they are. that seems to make the other person feel listened to.
also ive learned that if you look at the persons eyebrows, it looks like youre looking them in the eyes.
:hug;