Namaskar johnmerc and welcome to Psych Central.

The problem is that we have all had conditioned experiences where we dealt with anger as children and that was not easy for a child. Then when we are grown up, we can find those emotions being triggered by similar situations.

There are some forums that may be of interest.
Coping with Emotions - Forums at Psych Central

In India family are usually very instrumental in marriage arrangement. Have you talked with any of the parents involved to see what they think?

A professional to diagnose and suggest treatment is best found locally as online diagnosis is not done at this site. On the other hand if that is not possible you may find the self quizzes and scores some indication of tendencies you might have.
Psychological Tests and Quizzes

There is usually a forum for each category.

There are articles here at PC
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