You didn't say there was lack of consent, only confusion about submissive and dominant behavior. Right? And that your partner finds the swing between the two energies confusing.

That makes sense. My experience includes the presence of sexualities. They can't really be expressing at the same time and they feel very, very different. They are very different.

People without DID or dissociative disorders can like different things also.

I get tired of my partner seeing everything she is uncomfortable with in me as DID. Sometimes her own history and baggage are factors.

Even if stuff is DID, our partners have their own issues also. It's complicated stuff, this DID in relationship.