If you are being abused you should get out. No one should put up with abuse.

My sister has just gone through it. The divorce is final. She has her own place and a good job. They have shared custody and things are working out. He is still hurt and bitter and sometimes pulls some crap. I am still good friends with him and that doesn't bother my sister. It was verbal and emotional abuse and she just couldn't take it anymore. He is quite successful and good with the kids accept for some borderline physical discipline with the kids. That part is a current tough issue. I wouldn't call it abuse but some people would. But does she really want to tear the kids away from their father when overall he is a great dad.

She made the decision and the way she stayed strong was by joining a women's support group. It made a huge difference for her. Another friend of mine left her husband because of abuse and one time he got a chainsaw out and was threatening himself and everyone so she called the cops. Separated, got all the legal stuff going, her family really helped her get reestablished........now she is back with him. I dunno if they will still try to prosecute or not or if he is willing to go to therapy or not. He went to anger management but probably just because the court made him and may not have wanted to go. In court when it came to custody he was gonna spill his guts on her and her drinking and smoking pot and she got scared. I don't think that is why she went back though. Lots of women who are abused keep going back.