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Originally Posted by Patagonia
I put a trigger warning on here bec I wanto be very specific & blunt. I need blunt answers in return to understand this.
I have ddnos & experience co consciousness. I have a part that has been coming out more & more. It's triggered due to sex & I've become more & more sexually active so this part I guess feels like it can take over more & more.
Problem is I enjoy when she takes over. She does things I never would but I do experience great satisfaction thru her. She's like an alter ego. Sometimes very sassy, cheeky & dominant where as I wod say I'm more submissive. It's starting to get a bit confusing & a bit of a challenge for my partner to understand. There's such big changes or swings of emotions it gets confusing to him. It also happens extremely fast. I can feel it coming on.
So do I let this happen & enjoy it. Do I try to reign it in & do more grounding to keep myself present & this other part away or do I just...run with it. I'm very confused.
Thanks for your help!
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I think this is a very important conversation to have with your therapist. If this behavior is distressful to your partner that should be a concern. Also if it is upsetting up others in your system that need to be considered. But in a relationship you will be having sexually intimate times. Sex is a normal part of a relationship. If possible I think it would be good for your relationship for you to have an open conversation about your concerns. Also if what you are saying is that sometimes your partner isn't interested but you push the sexual encounter on him, that would be a problem. And most all of us know how that feels. So I would suggest that you discuss this with your therapist and also take time to openly discuss this with your partner. Set limits and stick to them. Take care.