@kaliope: I think you totally nailed it, thank you It feels really good to see that there are people out there that don't judge others because of things like sexual orientation/fetishes etc.
I hope i will find more people like you, especially here in germany. I always fell better if i don't have to worry somone around me finds out my perferances. Unfortunatly back in school this is what actually happened. After my schoolmates knew i loved my plushies every day in school felt like a never ending nightmare.

@CANDC: Thx for the link. I am not sure how dreams are related to paraphilia, but i managed to search for paraphilia on the website you linked
But i am still not sure. As far as i understood fetishism is one kind of paraphilia. There is a differentiation between a "normal" fetish and a disorder. And i am not able to determine if it is a disorder in my case. I know the sex with my ex worked fine even without plushies or fur. But it is also a problem for me that i have to worry about who i tell this secret of mine.