I see things a little differently. People saying that we're "lying" when we pass seems to be a cisgender thing to put trans people down. When I "pass" I "pass" as who I am. People are finally seeing me for who I really am. No lying here. I don't believe in the binary but I fit in it. I am a man and I want to be seen as such no questions asked. That's who I am. I'm "passing" as male just as much as any cis male might pass as male. I don't think it's a bad thing. It eases my social dysphoria just as much as binding or packing eases my body dysphoria. The majority of other people have no business in knowing my medical background and by not disclosing doesn't mean I'm lying. I'm a man and people seeing me as such is not lying.

If people don't like the term passing, well, that's fine. To each their own. But it's a legitimate term that's important to a lot of people. It's not about deception. There are cases where it IS deception, but we're talking about overall, in general, not specific cases.

I do understand that some people may never fully pass. They might never even try to. They should absolutely be seen as the gender they present/identify with no questions asked. And some people WANT to be open about their trans status and that's a perfectly legitimate way of living too. I respect both situations. This is a very personal thing to each individual and should be seen as such.

I do agree with the fact that we are who we say we are and that should be respected. Just saying there are may ways of living and they're not all bad.