Each person has their own sets of needs. If you aren't ready to leave, I guess you'd have to start with what's holding you back. This guy is human, just like you. When you leave, you're going to feel the overwhelming NEED to go back to him. You'll have to keep that in mind for when you leave.

Plan ahead. You need to have transportation, money, a place to live, and emotional support. House of Ruth is a shelter for battered women where you can go if you need to get away immediately. You will have to find the closest one to you or another battered women's shelter. If you work or go to school, develop a plan for getting there after you've left. If you feel like he might harm you while you're trying to leave, then you need to alert family and make sure they know where you are at all times. Come up with a safe word or phrase that you can text or call that won't raise suspicion with him, but will alert them that there's a problem and you need the police.

If you're afraid about falling into the trap of coming back to him, then you need to set ground rules for yourself. If he's very persuasive, you need to make sure he can't communicate with you. Get a prepaid phone to talk to family and ditch your old phone if you can. Make sure he doesn't know where you are. If needed, have someone you trust be the one-way liasion who can communicate to him that you have left and will not return. If you don't feel that's safe, then don't do it.

Much luck to you. Make sure you clear your browsing history after you're finished looking at this site or House of Ruth's website.