I'm not sure because this is my first time starting therapy. Its just something I've found very interesting based on all the various threads I saw here.

I don't think I could be comfortable with a T who is like a robot (ie. no personal disclosures at all, no hug/handshake, no opportunity for outside contact etc.). I need to feel like I'm talking to a real person in order to feel a connection. I do have attachment/transference issues with people who are nice/compassionate to me so I need to keep these "extras" to a minimum. The T I'm meeting next week seems down to earth based on what I read on his site, and I like that he's so open with sharing his cell phone (like it's on his site with a note saying clients can call in crisis). I guess I'll find out soon enough....