I guess it's an individual thing. We are the best experts on ourselves, aren't we?

I think if a person trusts herself she seeks the kind of help that feels right to her. Whereas someone who does not trust herself will look to others to tell her what's the right kind of help for her.

Proper help can mean one thing to me and another thing to you. It can mean one thing to me today and another thing to me tomorrow. Though I think all of your choices in combination or solo would constitute proper help.

So which particular problem do you have in mind? That's in need of 'proper help'?