Well, some progress to report....

But first, while I thank you ALL for your support, keep in mind, perspective is everything.

Had she come on here and told you she had found out she was married to a husband who had been lying to her for years, and that she had been through depression, anxiety, and the death of a family member, you would all rush to her side and I'd be the heel. There are always two sides. In her perspective, she's in a terrible spot.

For me, this is a safe place to voice my perspective during a low point, instead of it adding to a bad situation at home.

I expect we are all aware of the "fight, flight, or freeze" response. This past week she and I talked a lot about her threats to leave me. She told me she has no intention of doing that, but when any stressful situation arises, due to her extreme anxiety right now, everything in her wants to run.

So, we came up with the note idea... This is the least stressful way to deal with stuff right now. Maybe we do this for a year if necessary, until her anxiety comes under control again.

She also agreed to re-enter counselling with me, which we will be doing next month.

Wish me luck. And thanks for the support. God knows I needed it.

RDM