hey. what the quote doesn't really focus on is the reasons why the person 'refuses to recognise or accept in himself'. it is a DEFENCE mechanism which means it is a strategy that you use to PROTECT yourself. that means... you are feeling vulnerable. sometimes it can be about... if we have had bad experiences with anger as a kid... maybe we only saw anger used to hurt and never saw it expressed appropriately. maybe when we expressed anger our caregivers responded with fear or with anger in return... maybe it wasn't safe to experience anger. so... in order to protect yourself from the 'bad' emotion... one attributes it to others.

be kind to yourself sweetie...

just being aware of it can feel kind of threatening. be kind and gentle :-)