Hello Ian,
I agree with Peanut ,who knows she may not even be with this other guy when you get back and You dont know how she feels about you ..I think I would rather have someone I care very much for in my life{ even if it is just as a friend } than not to have them at all..I think that would hurt me like crazy..I wish you all the luck Ian..please let us know how you are doing..your friend Bee