Some of you may have seen my previous post regarding my strained relationship with my neighbor (whom I call "Sandy") and her daughter (whom I call "Debbie"). To summarize, I contacted the school about 2 months ago after continual rude and disrespectful behavior from Debbie towards my daughter on the school bus and school grounds. The school addressed it, and Debbie stayed away from my daughter. Recently, my daughter started hanging out with a girl (I'll call "Pam"). Pam also lives on our street and is close friends with the troublemaker, Debbie. Debbie does not like the fact that my daughter has become friends with her close friend and is very jealous. Debbie is very controlling of Pam and wants her all for herself, even going so far as to read Pam's messages on her cell phone to see who she talks to. Needless to say, Debbie has now started lashing out at my daughter again because of her friendship with Pam. She tells my daughter snotty things like, "why do you send weird text messages?", "you act weird", etc. Of course, my daughter has not sent any weird messages, so these are lies. I know because I monitor my daughter. Up to this point, my daughter has kept her cool and just told her to "bug off, and it's none of her business". Should I tell my daughter to be more aggressive towards Debbie and tell her to tell Debbie something like, "why are you so obsessed with Pam? That's what's weird! Now shut up!" ??? Or would that just fuel Debbie's fire and give her something to fight with my daughter about all over again?? What do you all think??