Ok, let me just stop you there. I have found that "mommy" groups are among the most vicious and judgemental groups this side of bridal planning forums. The ones who thought you were right were far too reasonable and not nearly insane enough to tap out a message to you. The ones who messaged you are INSANE. Gaining their acceptance only guarantees your doom as a breathing human. I actually left a parenting forum group because I started to think "all these women have got to be out of their minds". The sense of entitlement, empty outrage toward non-issues, and weirdly competitive arguments was making me feel like only crazy people are breeding nowadays.

There is nothing wrong with you. All you are is a sensitive person who identifies with others' emotions and tried to do what you thought was right. Your only fault is you tried to talk reasonableness to a bunch of unreasonable people who have driven themselves crazy with not having enough to do with their days. I thinkyou are being too hard on yoursef and you deserve some credit for making the effort to reach out to people. I'm sure it was challenging and you tried it anyway and despite that experience, you're trying again. Kudos to you.