[quote=sabby;4187392]What does your "gut" tell you about this relationship?

Be still for awhile, listen inside without judgement, just listen. Do you feel that your ideas about her behavior are on target? If so, then maybe it's time to back away quietly from the relationship. If not, then maybe you just need a break from her for a bit or to realize that you cannot be everything to everyone and at some point she'll have to figure that out as well.

Even if she is totally self involved, maybe it's what she needs to be in order to deal with her issues. Maybe it's just not a place for you to be with her and there is nothing wrong with that. You have to do what is right for you.
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Sabby, I'm not quite sure yet, but since she has been going through so much for over a year, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt for now. As for her behavior, sometimes I feel as if I'm on target, and other times, I might be off. She doesn't always tell me the things that I need to know at times, and she acts as if I'm supposed to know how to act and not act at times.

It's so weird. Due to my no nonsense and direct attitude though, people either cave and tell me more or decide to leave. In the later case, I'm upset at first, but in the end, I realize that it was for the best that I didn't end up wasting anymore time on those that can't deal with my honesty and directness, or the reality of their life for that matter. So far she is taking my advice to get therapy to heart, but then again, she could just be saying that.

Only time will tell what the case really is. For now, I'll just give her space and if this continues for to long, I'll definitely not contact her as much and distance myself from her more. We just resolved a few misunderstandings, but I have this bad feeling that she's not really as good as a friend as I thought she was.