That does sound upsetting, but please make sure you get all the facts before you get really, really upset. You have to know the whole situation-- often the reception where I go to therapy gets facts misconstrued. As far as the note, I don't think you ruined the relationship.... pdocs and therapists are used to our honesty, which can sometimes come out in the form of anger or hostility... I'm sure it's ok... just find out the facts.