amuseable, that sounds so hard. ((((hugs))))

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We have discussed many times how we would be friends the moment I was no longer his patient.

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That statement makes me really uncomfortable. I think he is blurring the lines between client and friend and this is bound to be very confusing for you. I don't think it is really very therapeutic.

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I asked him why and he said it was because of how I looked.

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I find this very damaging. He should not have commented on your physical appearance. I find it really inappropriate. The way you are feeling about this is totally understandable. That was a hurtful comment--it seems he must have known it would cause a breach?

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just a little aside:
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In order for the therapy to work you should not know much about him.

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This is actually not true in all therapy models. Only some therapeutic approaches favor no self-disclosure. My therapy, which emphasizes the collaborative, mutualistic relationship with the empathetic therapist (think humanistic), is working just fine, and I know quite a bit about my very, very human T. He uses self-disclosure skillfully to further our therapy in a positive direction. I'm not in any way trying to defend amuseable's T, but just wanted to point out that such a blanket statement about therapy is erroneous. Maybe it would be better instead to state something like, "for me, therapy works best if I don't know much about my T."