In time there will be understanding, I have been dealing with this for 14 years... it takes time don't push it.... I am far from whole... just let them get to know each other... understanding will come later... each has a function, each has a reason, none will ever go away, they will just learn to understand each other until the separateness starts to fade.... It is a long journey... and at times painful, but in the end I keep telling myself it will be worth it..... once I get past the denial thing...grin.. that comes and goes.... in the meantime... let those that can comfort and hug amandalouise hug her if no one can than at least let her know she is not alone...