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Originally Posted by blueredgrey
I am so sorry for what your brother went through. I can understand his inability to trust.
But I think you need to talk to him every day a little - plant a little seed in his mind that he needs therapy and it can help him move on. You can benefit a little from therapy yourself. Maybe, seeing you go to a therapist, your brother may be encouraged to go to one. The reason I am saying that you can benefit from a little therapy yourself is coz - you seem to blame yourself a lot for what your brother underwent. You almost sound like "I failed", when no one could have done anything.
I am sorry for asking....but can you pls elaborate on "I protected him from family?"If your parents are the understanding kind, then maybe they should know what happened to him and all of you can work for helping your brother?
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Our mother is bipolar and unmedicated so was very unpredictable. She could be the best mom in the world then turn around 5 minutes later and split your lip. When he was 2 he let her cat escape and she hit him hard enough that it left a hand print and imprint of her forearm across his back. Not to mention it knocked him down and rolled him about two feet. I was 12 but backed her into the wall and told her he wouldn't grow up like me and I'd call child services if ANYTHING like that happened again. After that she just put me in charge of his discipline. If he did something to make her mad then I just got the crap kicked out of me.
Also my uncle molested me from the time I was 4 until I was about 14. He also molested our mom and aunt when they were growing up and several of our cousins and his step daughter. There were also incidents with a few older cousins and my god brother. I always made sure he was never ever left alone with anyone in the family. Even if it meant canceling plans I had to stay home no one was allowed to watch him but me or dad.
I have been in therapy off and on for years. Along with the slight autism and anxiety he has something else going on. I know it goes with the trust issues but it's deeper than that. Like he freaked the first time I started taking meds because meds are government mind control and used to experiment on people.