What an awful thing to say!!! Maybe he just said that so you wouldnt put the moves on him now? If my T ever said that o me I would be devastated.
I would either re-open this questionand give him a chance to clarify....or dump him. Are you sure he meant what you think he meant???
Also, I fiind it impossible to love someone and think they are unattractive at the same time. So something is amiss. Maybe he was just trying to put you off becasue of the sex thing.
Im so sorry youve been having a rough time of it. If you have interpreted this situation right he sounds like a big jerk. The reason I say to clarifiy is im BPD and I overreacted to something my T said the other day..could it be the same type of thing? Evenif your not BPD? Did he really straight out call you unattractive?