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Old Jan 07, 2015, 05:08 PM
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Originally Posted by K2TOG View Post
Yes, K2TOG means knit 2 together. My counselor also told me about the stop sign technique. Or where a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you are thinking about him.

Have we asked ourselves why we have not or do not want to let go? Why do we want to keep those memories/fantasies alive? For myself deep down I want someone to love me.

Thinking back over my life I have ALWAYS wished and wanted for things I do not have. It's like I live in the future or a fantasy world. I'm working in appreciating what I have and living in the moment.

But it's hard when you are lonely and miss having companionship and a lover. It's lonely sleeping alone every night and not having someone to hold you or have someone to hold.

I assume there are single people that are content with being alone. I often wonder how they got to that point or are they secretly aching inside?

Anyway this is a great topic and I'm glad Artchic528 posted it. Happy new year everyone! It's a new year and chapter in our lives!
I asked my therapist about it as i have two friends who never date never married and approaching 40 and they seem content./

my therapist said that it is OK to take time off even a longer time but NEVER be in a relationship is against human nature and cannot possibly make these people happy. just because they arent moping around in front of you it doesnt mean they are happy, maybe just accepted what it is. i think she is right, that isnt something natural for humans, to be alone? no