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Originally Posted by divine1966
It won't work, I showed my dad his own emails and texts and told him to read if he doesn't think it is mean and rude, and he always says that we all are just sensitive and he doesn't do anything wrong. I recently cried because he made fun of my painful break up and he still didn't get it why i was so upset.
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I have to go with divine1966 on this one. Even hard evidence will not convince someone that they are hurtful to others if they are not willing to confront their illness and seek treatment. They are masters at finding other people or a given situation to explain away their behavior.
A decade ago, I walked away from my foo, and in September - at my sister in laws funeral - My toxic mother managed to figure out a way to tear down my defenses and wanted to have a 'normal' mother/daughter relationship. The whole fiasco has blown up in my face. If I had it to do over, I would still have gone to my sil's funeral, but I wouldn't allow myself to get sucked back into her nightmare world of her own creation. Now I'm trying to figure out a way to get her out of my life again. I don't hate her, and I don't want to hurt her, but everything I do where she is concerned is for the purpose of self-preservation, not to be hurtful. After all, she suffers, too, I know, though she denies it.
The one job I had where I had to deal constantly with a toxic person, I walked away from, too, btw.
Hope this helps.
WW