I sadly agree with you, not everyone is all like that deep down, but definitely will go out their way to appear as such and others are just that, superficial and worry only what others think and are a slave to the society we live in.

See people don't get despite that some people say they accept homosexuality and things they don't understand the still back up their own subconscious beliefs on this, because of the fear of the unknown, causing irrefutable harm on others unintentionally. I seen this too much where I live, people say they are for gay rights and the people who truly aren't like this really go out their way to help others as a guide from the sea of ignorant abyss. A lot of people say they know they answer everyone including me on anything, but they really don't yes the sky is blue, but is the sky blue. Yes that man or woman is not in a relationship does it really matter and does it have to be their gay or is it your insecurities bypassing your logic to see that you should not press your own anger and suppressed feelings onto others, but instead vent in a healthy manner and show that you care.

Preferably not everyone believes these things and a lot of people do, but everyone no matter single or not, are all happy to some degree. I'm suffering wanting to be close not to actually need to be married, I don't understand the concept why to do it, it kinda diminishes it for me, as of the society how it makes it out to be, if I were to marry that person did not only work their way to my heart and my soul, but they gave me the security and locked themselves away with me so I'm not afraid anymore. They wanted me for me and nothing else, unlike most people want the benefits of marriage, or had kids unexpectedly, or made poor relationship choices. Rather most people stay single to avoid this, but inevitably so many people choosing to be single and not helping themselves properly leaves a big giant mess of unhappy people married and not.

It's also to blame that we put emphasis that women are weak and men are strong when either or can actually reach similar potential or higher. Despite that, if we were to ever get passed not break ups, but our own differences to actually find our own happiness to share with others not because we "love them" it's because we find our happiness is worthy to be shared with individuals. Our culture was all about this before, but got lost astray when corporations started implementing ideas to get more money and exploiting the happiness perverting our own beliefs and leaving us confused and without a say. That's why as children we are exposed to boy and girl toys and how girls and women are supposed to look pretty and frail and men are supposed to be tough and strong, it's kinda like a mind trick, a devious, but very simple one since at children we are unaware, but if our parents fell under that spell disaster has been made and you have control of a nation.

It's not really something to be paranoid about, it's something to keep in mind, because it's a very quiet idea. It's actually everywhere we look now, we can't escape it.

The only way to escape our own madness and showing that we are just humans with our bio functions and we do these monotonous tasks as either careers or basic jobs, to bring our own fulfillment whether it's for someone else or ourselves. We haven't changed ever mentally, but we are finally starting to be aware accepting ourselves more, because people like me and you and everyone who tries to look into a more critical position on mental health understand it's not really about if they are sad or not. It's suffering, on a different level, you can't reach it by normal means or talking neither medication. Hence why couples go to couples therapy, they can't get to each other's hearts because they are blinded by their own arrogance, sadness, grief, anger, or whatever suffering they may be enduring. It's why things get toxic, but it's normal for things to fall apart and people don't see why that being single is good.

It's a break from your own madness, but it can create madness within itself, but sometimes people like me, who are addicted to need love and affection from a lack there of they will go to great lengths to achieve it even marriage when they don't love the person and they maybe very abusive, it's just to satisfy a missing part of their own issues they can't seem to help on their own not because they aren't smart enough nor incapable, it's just they don't have the resources, friends, and support that gives them what they truly need over what they want.

I've spent so much time looking at unlocking the secrets to relationships deep inside then stepping back out and finalizing the overall picture. I see that both men and women are at each other's throats at times from the outside it continues through early dating and superficial stuff that teenagers can't seem to grasp most of the time, but when those teenagers mature to young adults mentally and realizing love isn't about getting the toughest and hottest guy nor the prettiest/sexiest girl for whatever suits your sexual needs. It's about being validated.

All humans need it, despite who you are. So there is no gender stereotypes to begin with other than what was incorporated as a survival mechanism long ago and we now need to realize that our pain is normal our suffering and then the sweet bliss of redemption is normal. Love is normal, the idea of feeling that someone might have the potential to satisfy what you need in whatever it is from good to bad intentions they are the one you chose.

It's all comes down to the choice that really backs up why you love and marry that person. This may be too deep in thought for some of you, but if you'd like me to reiterate this I'd be happy to.

I feel the need to say, my work on reading this and understanding how I can help others despite my own insanity gives me a supernatural insight of a kinda outside the box genius brain. I can understand empathy and recognize a situation in the making as it plays out, sometimes I wish I could intervene and be the medium, because I'd rather people use their rational sense to take care of themselves before resulting to doing anything rash even if it appears to be a positive thing in the short run.

I've done extensive research on men and women, and just using real world interactions and understanding culture of different perspectives. I've came to the conclusion.

The meaning of getting married is very different of what it used to be made for we are currently transitioning to a time that our old ways are dying now and the new is coming in. Despite that we will have to accept that one day, polyamory, homosexuality, monogamy may all change from this. Someday maybe homosexuality might be the norm, you never know.

Why this reoccuring theme happens, it's because people let it happen. There isn't much communication in a community people are online and connected through the web. It's isolation, but a community of isolationists.

I'm not trying to bring any conspiracy it's just what I see all the time, it's not that I'm saying there is a right way to handle this, but I feel people should take several steps back or however much they need to see the big picture that people are people. No matter where they are from. It takes a true hard look to see and anyone can do this, that you don't need marriage or love to find happiness, and happiness is what you make of it. It's a theme in all religion and hardship stories in real world scenarios.

Sadly, people only want to box things in and dumb it down for others only ending up confusing their self and the others they tell this closed knowledge to. So where I end this is saying, you can get married, you should get married if you feel you need to that's how you want to do it, but recognize your self and the other individual. If it doesn't seem you are going in for any of the right reasons, don't do it EVER no matter how innocent and in the moment it may seem.

Marriage is tough, think of it like not a test of each other, but a symbol of achievement. That they made it this far without kicking each other out and they aren't doing this for sexual gratification or to have children, they only want to spend their little minutes and moments lasting no matter how good, bad and small it can be. That's what it's supposed to be, but I don't expect having this happen to myself so I live single not caring what others think, because being me is more important than being what others think of me.