I'm sorry I can't vote in your poll as I look at this situation from a different direction.

I think you need to find a Therapist for yourself. You need help with this mess his parents and him are causing you and also for the losses you have suffered. Im very sorry, I know how hard that is.

I also would advise you and him to go to couples Therapy. He might not be thrilled with the idea but, push may quickly come to shove if he doesn't start taking responsibility of his part of the problems. You just need to make it very clear that this is a priority for you.

Have you ever sat down with his parents are asked them what the problem(s) is? I know that not always an option, but wanted to toss that out there.

Meanwhile.. Just do not have contact with them, no need to go see them , no need to answer the phone when they call. If your husband calls or sees them or not is not your problem right now.. I say if he does go see them , take that time you will have and treat yourself to something.. manicure? favorite food? go see a movie? anything.

If you husband just refuses to budge on fixing this situation then you will need to decide how much you are willing to put up with. You seeing a Therapist is going to help you see things clearer and you will find out just what you can and will deal with and what you wont..

He needs to "learn" he can still love his parents while stepping up and being the man that respects and loves you. Maybe he honestly doesn't know "how" to do it.

Hope this helps somehow.

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