Much like Webgoji, I don't believe in those therapy methods. And perhaps my response may not help you, but I've always believed that we are born with our sexuality. Personally I'm bisexual...my first sexual experience was homosexual and I've been in a monogamous heterosexual marriage for almost two decades.

I've done some basic questionning of myself...I've asked myself why do I have to like guys sexually when I love my wife and kids. Even if I force myself to not consider gay sex, the first moment I see a naked guy or two guys kissing, my heart starts to race and I get sexually aroused. I didn't choose to have that happen, I truly believe it's biological.

My point is that although I AM bisexual, and that I am strongly attracted sexually to other men, I have chosen to live in a heterosexual lifestyle. I have chosen not to seek out gay sex, I have chosen not to take part in LGBT activities, I have chosen to limit my sexual activities to heterosexual acts. Is part of me gay? Yes. Do I hope at some point that I can live a "bisexual" life? Yes.

My point is that biology aside, you have the ability to choose how you act. If you were lactose intolerant, you can choose to drink alternative products. You may not like that they don't taste as good or cost more, but you can choose. As for you sexuality, you may not like boys, but you can choose to have a relationship with them. So if you are worried about losing your family, then choose to have a relationship with a man.

I hope this helps.