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Why have his questions focused on my past sex lives?
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This is a common activity of an abuser: to shame you into submission
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I relate to most things that I read about emotionally abusive relationships. I sound like I'm in one.
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It certainly does sound like you are in one.
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But what if it's just my wording? What if he hasn't given me a reason to feel scared, sad, self doubting, confused, insecure, etc every day of my life?
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Reasons to feel scared, self-doubting, confused, insecure:
-he listened in on your therapy session
-he asks for sex as payment, he wants sex even if you are unhappy
-he cross-examines you about long-past details about your sexual history
-he blamed you for ruining a place for him that was related to your PTSD
-he has files on you
-he can't take criticism and gets very upset
-he bears grudges
-he demands to see your conversations with your friends
-he isolates you
-he does not trust you
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I don't believe that I assassinated his character either but I fear I'll be accused of that if I say anything that could possibly be perceived as negative about him to the new couple's therapist.
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What will he do to you if you say anything "that could possibly be perceived as negative"?
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What if I am mentally ill or scarred from my past(abusive household growing up, abusive relationships)?
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Then you deserve extra compassion, support, respect, kindness, understanding, safe access to therapy.