Please read the book that saved my life and millions of other women: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans.

What he did was unconsciounable......He is abusive; what you tell your t is no one's business. Can't believe the walls aren't soundproofed; my ALSO has music playing in the waiting room.

Abusers are extremely insecure and childish; they will do anythhig to keep you under their control (control is the whole issue); they are narcissists; stop maturing at about age 13. I stayed for 31 years (when you grow up abused) you are more willing t put up with someone else abusing you. There is something called the "wheel of violence" you can google it; it a gives a snapshot of an abuser's behavior.

All abusers are alike; they just have different names.

http://www.domesticviolence.org/violence-wheel/