You are in an abusive relationship, make no mistake about that.


And yes, abusers have good traits, can act loving, supportive and affectionate. They have to know how to do those things, because how else will they reel in their victims... Nobody wants someone who's all bad.


My abuser was as sweet as sugar, he was very good at the good guy act, and very subtle with his abuse for a long time... Unfortunately for me, this combo kept me with him for way too long. I only left the day he forgot all subtlety and actually beat me to a pulp.

So many times I wish I had identified his behavior sooner, left sooner, known better sooner... But too late now, what's done is done and what's past is past.


I hope you get your head out of the sand and see your bf for what he truly is, before it gets even uglier.