I had just read an article on this woman who was very successful in her career and was dating a man with low self-esteem and didn't realize it. The guy then ended the relationship months later because he felt he could have better. The lady then realized she had sunk to his level and that she attracted MWLSE and said that about a year later she realized he was her perfect type because she didn't realize how strong she really was.

Why I ask is that I am dating a guy with low-self esteem issues and who right now is very attracted to my happiness and I believe who I am. I have been dating him for only a month and have already let him know things I will not tolerate and want to continue discussing them slowly before I would choose to get too serious. I do like this guy for who he is, though I admit I do see a challenge. I want him to love himself and I know I CANNOT be the only one to help him. I choose to love myself too and he sees it, I believe.

We immediately had talked about self help and ways we want to continue helping ourselves before this friendship even formed. I had even given him this packet of papers that were courses of assertiveness that had helped me a lot with in the past year and half. He had told me he wanted to become more assertive. So I do know he sees his weaknesses, PLUS strengths. He has told me ways he's helped himself before meeting me too.

Our next hangout is going to be this meditation class which he says he looks forward to.

I also want to state is why else I ask is because I have not had a boyfriend do to my past of not feeling emotionally available. Now I feel more ready than I have been. Plus, I do know that I have my ups and downs. I know my self esteem lowers at times too and I do have anxiety myself that I want to work on too, which we all do.

I want to hear other experiences and I want your opinions please not just on my situation but the title too.