Well...I am amazed that you talk with him and his wife (wow) at church and that he told you that he loves you. All of that seems unusual.... but....

If you think that he loves his wife and is happy with her (which you might be able to tell by how he treats her in church or if/how he talks about her) then compare what she looks like with how you look. Are there similarities?

I think that my pdoc likes me and sometimes enjoys me (actually he said so at the last visit) but I know that I am too large for his liking and I bet he likes a woman that is more feminine and cute (nails, makeup...) than I but I do not KNOW this. I just have to accept what I have there... I know that we have a good working relationship and that we get along...optimally in the work we are doing.

I think that your feelings are hurt and I understand that. I do think that you need to ask him further what he means. I think that it might be more appropriate to ask you about your emotions toward him but ... maybe he is wishing to create change or movement.

Is there anything that you are speaking of in therapy that might be connected?

You just need to ask him and talk it out. It may all be connected to the work you are doing. It does sound rough ... but we do not know all that is going on in your therapeutic relationship.