i trust my T a lot but it took A LOT for me to trust him and it took a long time.

talking about sexual abuse is really hard. i dont think its harder bc hes male. i know he is non judgemental and gentle and wouldnt force me to talk about things im not ready to talk about. and he always tells me we should pace it so i dont get overwhelmed. and if he thinks i am getting overwhelmed we stop and he asks what im feeling and we take a step back from it. whether it was a male or female it would be equally as hard i think. at least for me.

i think having a good trusting relationship and a goood rapport with a T makes things a LOT easier

i hope ur T is a good fit for u. i know u have doubts about her. i just wish so much that everyone could have a great T and get the support they need. it makes me sad that people go without.