Hi there am hoping someone can give me a fresh perspective. I have huge problems with boundaries. I've had counselling and it helps for a while then things worsen again. Basically I get very very overwhelmed by people,worse since having fibromyalgia. I've not had a partner for about six years ( have had two traumatic marriages) but I'm also struggling with friendships. I seem to attract people who want to dump all their problems on me and I just can't seem to say no. I had a 6 month period last year where I stepped back from friends as I was really struggling. I lost my best friend when I decided not to run around after her anymore. I've now made friends with another lady with the same illness and already I am being sucked in again. I am literally panicking. My fibro is a lot worse and I feel like crying all the time. It feels like I can only be friends with people as long as I sit and listen to them. My last counsellor was trying to teach me how to stop this but we didn't have enough time really. Don't get me wrong I do like listening to people and I'm finding that I am actively encouraging it but my body doesn't,not in the slightest. Perhaps I'm just better staying indoors just doing my own thing. I do however have a pretty good relationship with my son and daughter,they are 15 and 18 so I know I can do it. My relationship with the rest of my family has been chaotic,especially my mum who has now passed away,leaving me now wanting to lead a calmer life after a lone period of chaos. I really need to work out my boundaries again!