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Old Jan 09, 2015, 04:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Middlemarcher View Post
I hope everything works out well for you. I will say that you seem rather invested in the idea that he needs to work on changing himself. But people are often unwilling or unable to change a great deal, and actively trying to change someone else can lead to an unhealthy dynamic between the two of you and/or leave you feeling very frustrated. I'd just watch this aspect and see how everything unfolds.
Yes, I do agree on this. I am a very cautious and guarded person, which I do need to loosen up too. Cannot be too guarded or I will not find someone.

I know if I choose to focus on him too much, then I would lose myself. He seems to be a respectful person towards me so far. And he was the one who had told me that he wanted to become more assertive and which I choose to continue to do so too. Along with becoming more spiritual.
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Thanks for this!
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