Dear DD, welcome to Psych Central (PC). You sound like you are making this breakup into a positive experience for self growth and self reconciliation. You are doing what could resolve some issues that were on the table.
I don't understand his block
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His main issue right now as far as getting back together is that seeing me doing all these things is off-putting in his mind
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If he is not supportive of your improvements, maybe he just used those as covers for his real feelings or maybe he has already given up on reconciliation. I don't know why. Did you ask him what it would take to get back together? If he won't commit to a plan, maybe he is not working on himself and the junk is just drowning his enthusiasm.
What I think you can do is keep working on yourself. Whatever he decides, you will be in a better place. Some relationships reach a wall and both parties are not willing to do the work to get beyond it. If not this relationship, you will attract another one with your improved image and esteem.