I am sorry stargazzer. Do not send gifts and packages. No need. if he shares that he is stressed then yes otherwise don't. Now perhaps send him email stating that you need an explanation of his behavior ASAP(be polite), if he follows up with explanation nice, if not...Follow up with a letter that you are done (again be polite). Do nto call. If he asks why are you breaking up via a letter remind him that he never calls and never replies so that is the only way for you to end it. Good luck and hugs to you. Trust been there done that