dear perpetuallysad,

That is hard, very hard. I am glad to see others with similar problems. I am 44 yrs old and just found out both my parent knew my father was not my father and kept it from me until I did a DNA ancestry test and it said I was 1/2 Jewish.

That was the first time a started questioning my family as there was no Jewish identity in my family. I asked my mother and even then she continued to lie saying maybe there was some Jewish history in our family and on and on but she never admitted anything when I asked questions.

Fast forward 3 months. I am visiting my stepmother to give her and my brother the news face to face and she says she has known about this for many years! I freak out and call my dad's (not bio dad of course) best friend from time of my birth and ask him and he confirms its true.

I have been living in a movie or Jerry Springer show for the last week with this crap and I just dont know what to do. My mother will not help even since I threatened her to never see her grandkids until she give me a name. She says it was 44 years ago and cant remember. I think she is lying.

Sorry to rant...