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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Okay , I have gotten kinda slammed over my feelings and statements on this before 
So this is just how I manage my Bipolar and relationships.
I do not allow Bipolar to take up alot of space in my marriage, same as my Fibro doesn't take up much space . Why????? Spouses, significant others and friends can really get burned out just hearing it a lot.
Being in acute Crisis is a different story of course.
I do "hide" a lot from my husband... Why??? Men in general are "fixers" he can't "fix" it. I just don't talk about my Bipolar or how I had a rough morning or I felt insecure or maybe a bit paranoia here and there or if my hallucinations are actually bothering me... Why tell him lil blips I deal with all the time ?? If I am in a real mess and I am actually "worried" about how I am handling things ? That is when I will give him a heads up and we have a conversation and I am 100% honest. During those kinda of times.. Yes Bipolar is a topic over dinner and we discuss and agree on a game plan to handle things.
My Fibro chronic pain ? Really I don't need to tell him daily that I hurt or even on my most horrible days, He can see it, there's Nothing he can do so why should I burden him with me talking out loud about it. He has broken his back 3 times and he has pain 24/7 also, He seldom talks about it as I am with my Fibro... We hug and kiss daily, I guess that is our way of silently showing each other that we are there for each other. No words are needed. If one of us does need to talk about it, it happens.
I have made amazing friendships here and we lean on each other when we need someone to vent rant an rave or have a shoulder to cry on... because they "really get it"
Again, I choose to manage my Bipolar this way. It's talked about when it needs to be.... Meanwhile, I just go about my daily life. |
This is awesome. Sometimes I feel like I need to shut up. I just don't tell mine things anymore because he doesn't understand. He is a wonderful husband and I love him very much but since my bipolar has an ability to make me frequently impaired and sometimes insane, he resents it and sometimes me. I used to talk about it all the time but I think inside he was screaming "enough already!", so I stopped. My symptoms still come between us sometimes but I know it is frustrating to deal with mental illness and he sometimes thinks I need to pull up my boot straps (sometimes I do too). I do tell him when I need to also and unfortunately that can sometimes be all too often in itself. This is why I, too, am so appreciative of this site. There are so many people who listen and do understand and offer wonderful advice. It is a necessary release! I need some of your attitude.