Everything you are saying makes so much sense. I think I just have a fear that he won't respond. Like I said earlier this is not like him, he is normally very responsive and I know since last month he is under a ton of pressure, the business is his dream and his priority and he needed investors that he was not able to keep. Again I know that means I shouldn't be ignored. Honestly I was putting alot of pressure on him about spending time together and he was stressed, but I still don't feel like it is my fault. He needed to give a little more.
You're right I am constantly checking my phone, and this is alot of anxiety, I'm in an unclear state right now. I will send him an email at 11pm and hopefully he will respond. If he wanted it over why can't he just say that through text, or when we spoke, why cant he just say stop calling me. I think he feels like he can't deal with me and the company at the same time and that makes me sad.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
I understand. I just know that I have been through the same and I know how it feels.
I am also not saying you need to break up today. I am saying tell him directly he must give you specific answer why and when he is willing to communicate or you will be done. If he doesn't come forward right away then be done.
Now if after you are done, he is trying to fix something then listen to him. He might have his r4easons but if he doesn't communicate them, then it is a major red flag.
I just know that I'd rather go through a break up and be upset than anxiety like you have now.
Also I talked to my T what are appropriate expectations and she said replying, responding and reguarly communicating (daily or maybe occasionally skipping a day) are normal expectations. Withdrawing, not responding, not regularly communicating is not appropriate in a relationship, it is unhealthy. Now even if the person is just this way and really mean no harm, still it is very unhealthy way of handling relationships and is passive-aggressive. Again give him a chance by asking directly, and then be done. Cry for few days and then move on.
I ended this nonsense last Sunday and am better today. I am still sad but not anxious and don't have this empty pit in my stomach, I am out and about. You can go about your life upset and sad but not anxious and panicking, life is too short.
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