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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
I have thought about afixing a video to my forehead many times so I can show my T how my husband can go from being so nice and then slipping into what I refer to as Mr. Hyde.
I often wondered how he would react if he was able to see how bad he can get too because it really is like he does this switch and doesn't realize how bad it really is.
I used to try to think ahead even because I have found that whenever a question takes place and I come up with an answer, his response is always the opposite. In my thinking ahead I would think about my response then to avoid the challenge would speak out the opposite. Well, what I discovered is that often simply doesn't work because what is really taking place is that he will simply respond "opposite" no matter what I come out with. It is disagreeing no matter what quite often, especially when he is in that Mr. Hyde mindset.
The truth is that some people will talk over you, interupt you and take over no matter what, it is part of their makeup somehow, which is what I have been learning about the way my husband is with his two learning disabilities.
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I think that this might actually be worth a try. If it was me, I'd set up a video for some social situation with several people there and just make it available, so hubby doesn't think it's a campaign to criticize him personally.
I think that most of the people who talk over you and interrupt you and take over don't realize that they are doing it. I remember once, I was the only male invited to a Women in Physics lunch (about 15 females and me) and it was a real eye opening experience. Someone said something, and then.....everybody LISTENED AND THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT THE PERSON SAID. I had not realized it, but my own conversations were hardly ever like that! When males have a conversation, it is often unconsciously a contest for dominance. This attitude is contagious, so people pick it up from each other. You think of what to say while the other person is talking. Listening is for losers. I had picked up this behavior myself without intending it or realizing it.
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