Hello everyone,
Before I get stated, let me state that I have a therapist, my fiance has a therapist, and we have a couples counselor, though we don;t see him more than a few times a year. Neither of us use drugs or have medical illnesses. My fiance is my best friend - we've been friends since 1995. she was my first girlfriend. We married different people. I got divorced 5 years ago and her husband committed suicide three years ago. We've been together since. We are together because we are friends but also because my fiance has a son who will be six in February. He has a play therapist, too.

At any rate, we moved in together six months ago and things went downhill. I have just finished graduate school and have been finishing up one career to begin another, I operate a website and do some consulting work on the side. I am very, very busy. My fiance has failed out of nursing school twice, after her husband died, and she presents with PTSD symptoms. She gets a social security check and lives off that. She has grown increasingly angry with me because I do not spend enough time with her. She knows full well that I am being pulled in 9 different directions and one of the reasons I work like I do is I really don;t want to spend a lot of time with her, because she is sullen, angry, sad, etc. I love her, but this has been an exhausting experience and I'm just tired. She also has a mother that contacts her probably 10 times a day (phone, text, FB) who has no concept of boundaries and this drives me nuts as her mom has gone some serious Axis II things going on. I should mention we're both in our late 30s, so parental involvement to me is a bit ridiculous. At this point, I'm in the relationship because of her little boy but also because I do love her - I just don;t like her very much these days.

I'm just not sure what to do. Her husband's death has obviously destroyed her, but i feel like I am getting the brunt of it. Don't get me wrong, I do plenty to get in trouble and I have many flaws, but I know what I am and am not responsible for. I'm just at an impasse. I don't know what to do to make her happy as it seems like the goal line keeps getting moved... Any one else able to relate?