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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I was in similar shoes at one point. In that I was resistant to his suggestions but implemented them after we broke up.
Why? Well I realized he was right, and that my refusal to even try therapy is what lead to our break up. That I had to try something different, because my methods were obviously not working, i was finally ready for a solution, relationship or no relationship.
I'm not sure why an "I admit I was stubborn and wrong and I'm finally taking your advice because you have my best interests at heart" would not be enough for your bf...(?)
Part of the reason my bf and I were able to reconcile was because he witnessed me trying to improve myself, and once we got back together, this translated into trying to improve / strengthen our relationship as well.
I'm not quite sure what your bf's beef is, because in all honesty it just seems quite childish to be "put off".  |
I had a heart-to-heart with my mom and I have been able to put myself in his shoes, so to speak. I have to admit that the changes I have been making have been drastic. And have happened quickly. From his point of view, I am putting on a show. I can understand why it doesn't come across as genuine. To me, it says, "look what I can do. Don't I look happy?" On his part, I can understand why he may think I'm doing it to rub salt in the wounds and putting on a show for him. Everything has been documented on Instagram., which can make it seem like I am showing off.
I have to be very conscious of being genuine with him. Don't do things for show. Don't do things that I think he wants to see. By doing that, it comes across as someone not happy with himself and not confident. It's definitely been an emotional journey. I've learned more about myself out of this break up than I have my entire life.