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Originally Posted by JJBX
I guess it's just a matter of you'll have to ask him each time to do it. If he has mild aspergers, he might not change overnight. If it becomes part of the routine, he might just start doing it spontaneously. If that's what you need to feel satisfied, then you should absolutely want that to be part of the routine and it's not wrong of you to ask for it. My husband wasn't terribly affectionate either, so I would just tell him to hug me right now or I would die or something. He is a little better about doing it spontaneously, but I still have to tell him when I wants me some sugar.
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That makes a lot of sense, thank you!
He would never say no if I were to ask him. I think that if I made a habit to ask him that, yeah, it would eventually become part of his routine.
Your husband sounds similar in terms of giving affection. It is hard to get used to! But asking regularly is probably the best approach. It does bother me to have to ask--especially because I go so far out of my way to be generous with him--but I will just have to put that out of my mind for the purpose of establishing a new pattern.