Ok I get it now. The big 3 0 got you thinking about it I am sure. Not a matter of being but doing. Do you mean career wise? like in earning a living? or just in general interests and hobbies?

I have always had a career that I sort of fell into by accident. Was never my intention. I always liked it very much though. But now at 50 and my whole circumstance in life I have no idea what my future will look like.....limbo land.

I am the same way. If my buddy asks me to come over and help him clean and organize his garage or work on his car I am all motivated and gung ho. When it comes to doing it for my own garage or car I have no motivation at all.....so I call him and we use that trick to motivate each other and trade off. I have had so many interest and hobbies over the years. I get to a certain point and get bored and drop the whole thing. I suspect that when it comes to not doing things for ourselves for the sake of ourselves there is a self esteem issue going on.