Hi (((((((((Mary Alice))))))))).

I hope it's OK to share my thoughts...

What you and he were doing before wasn't working for you it seems to me.

It seems like before you wanted him to take control, and now that he is, you don't like it, (understandably).

I think that the anger you feel cannot be resolved by ignoring it, and not addressing it (the anger) with him keeps you in the role of powerless victim.

Does it make sense that your T, however misguided, is trying to do this 'for' you, and not 'to' you? He has you there to try to help you, but seeing him as doing things 'to' you seems to recreate the theme of controlling, all-powerful, abuser, with you as weak, powerless, victim, (which you are not). Is this not how it was in your early years?

This dynamic is ultimately not about him; it's here to work on your underlying issues it seems to me.

I hope you're not mad that I wrote more than hugs this time. I've been holding back because I didn't want to hurt you in any way, but a friend says things the was they see them.

XOXO, Peanut

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