I don't have any exes as friends. They've always been the type that I wouldn't want to have as friends. At first they seem great, but then they turn out to be manipulative and mean and verbally abusive. And all of my guy friends are guys that I wouldn't be interested in dating. I definitely give too much too quickly. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I can be naive and I'm a hopeless romantic. And even though I'm aware of it, I don't know why I can't follow through. I will have the whole conversation with myself like "Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Take it slow. Guys like the thrill of the chase. They don't like anxious, clingy girls" but then I can never hold to it. It's almost easier said than done. And I don't know why I can't control it. I'm 28 so still relatively young. I've been trying online dating for the sole reason that when I do go out I'm too shy and insecure to approach someone or even smile or make eye contact. Which is odd for me because I am confident and I'm very social and outgoing! I can usually strike up a conversation with anyone! I don't know if it's just the fear of rejection, but I cannot bring myself to smile at a guy I'm interested in. However, when I meet someone online I'm confident and comfortable and when we meet in person for the first time I don't get very nervous and I can be my normal outgoing self. And then last night I was on a date and he said that I'm very good at eye contact, but it's almost too much. How most people are too uncomfortable to hold eye contact for long... or something along those lines. And it's something I never realized that I do until he said it! Maybe I creep people out! :S I am kind of picky. I want someone who is good with children, a family guy, who wants more. Who is good with money and fun, good sense of humour, a good communicator. Someone who is successful (lives on his own or with roommates... not parents, has a car, good job). I have dated other single parents, but I find that it can be really difficult to coordinate schedules for when we don't have our kids at the same time or they want to rush into meeting each other's kids (I think partly for the difficulty with schedules). Or they don't want more kids, which I might be able to compromise on but I'm not sure. Thanks for the encouragement. I'm not sure if I'm just meeting the wrong guys or if it's just the fact that I go all-in too quickly or a combination of both. I wish I could just control that part of me that rushes into things! Like I said, I have those conversations with myself but then I kind of just go onto autopilot and I do it without even realizing!