it makes sense to me. because of my mental health issues i have a difficult time connecting to people. they make me really uncomfortable. connecting to my own children even was challenging. i was baffled as to why they stayed in contact after they left home and had to ask why they liked me. so while i am very friendly and caring to kids of friends an even my own grandchildren when i see them for special occasions, they really do not exist for me outside of that time. out of site, out of mind basically.