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Originally Posted by ladytiger
Hello, I have never posted in ehre before. I had a very bad experience with a mental health professional again! I finished my sessions Feb 2014 and couldn't been happier. The problem was the ex-therapist and I were always fighting as she always had to use her mommy-dearest attitude and her marital arrogance to "prove her point." She was only a few years older than me (me almost 29 and her in her 30s) yet the woman lacked a lot of things about life that I could.
She said a lot of upsetting comments and took zero responsibility for anything she said! I was so upset with her in July 2013 that it took me 2 weeks to calm down I was so enraged by her ridiculous comments. Anyway, I learned nothing from her only one thing breathing exercises. Fast forward: I am looking to go back to therapy, sex therapy because I had a revelation about what happen at age 13. I knew about being sexually abused by a stranger, but I never really dealt with it or I thought I did deal with it my own way.
I have contacted some of them and they all don't take insurance of any kind. Their rates are high way out of my budget! I would like to talk to them but I am still bitter about what happen with my ex-therapist - I have seen a high school counselor and college counselor all treated me like ****! My ex-therapist had no tact refused to refer to me to the correct person who could help me she was a big time waster regretted seeing her for 16 mos!
I don't want to be dependent on therapy, but god I've been in such a stuck mindset since I was a kid I am always bothering someone to "help me solve my problems." This sexual abuse is bothering me now after stuffing it for so long. If I see a therapist, I told a couple I want str8 up answers no bs let's work together and solve my problem or me solving my own problem. I don't wanna see a therapist covered by my state insurance using the typical boring approach how does that make you feel and what could you have done differently. Like I am suppose to have a crystal ball everywhere I go and change the situation when I please!
Anyone advice on knowing when your ready to find a better therapist?
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Hi Lady Tiger. Sorry you are having a bad time. You said you don't want a therapist using the typical boring approach, how does it make you feel etc.. My T has never taken that approach. She has never asked me a question like that or how I could do things differently. I think there are probably a lot of T's who don't talk like that. She does however make a lot of seemingly ridiculous comments that I feel upset and angry about. My therapy seems to be about talking about that at the moment. I'm kind of trusting that she actually does know what she is doing and that if we keep talking about this we are going to get somewhere. Perhaps this is what therapy is for me? It is novel for me to feel a bit angry and talk about it, and somehow explaining why I feel angry is hard and I feel very vulnerable doing it, I don't know how it is going to turn out.