I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. He suffers from depression and has anxiety. With that I find he is distant at times, but mostly we are very close. We are taking things slow, He has met my family, but I haven't met his. He had a bad breakup previously and it devastated his family. Now he is nervous to bring someone new into his family. I have been understanding of this and don't mind taking things slow in that aspect because he has explained the importance to me. At the same time, I don't know if I am doing the right thing waiting and NOT pushing at all. I try to take baby steps to move our relationship forward but I'm not always good at it, and I'm worried he will get comfortable with the stage we are at, which I obviously want it to progress much further. I have thoughts of marriage with him and don't want to waste my time if he is never going to move forward with me. He does take some baby steps, like he is letting me meet more and more of his friends all the time, and he talks to me a lot more these days about EVERYTHING he's doing which is nice. But I just worry, because it's been a year and it is important to me to meet his family someday. He knows that is what I want and we both agree that we wouldn't be dating if we didn't see a future with each other. I know his anxiety has a bit of play in the fact that he hasn't brought me home yet due to his previous breakup and he's worried if we breakup it will happen again. I guess I just want to know if anyone has experience with someone who has anxiety if it is better for me to continue down the baby step path I am taking, or if I should be pushing for what I want now. I don't want to push too hard and scare him away because it's too much for him to handle right now, but I also don't want to wait forever for something that doesn't end up happening. This may be an unanswerable question, because ultimately I have to make my own decisions, but anyone with any advice would sure help. Thanks!
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