In a previous post, I wondered aloud about what one is to say when one responds to someone else's post, and there was some dialogue about that.

Learning how to be in relationships requires so many fine distinctions. I have belonged to a 12-step program for many years, and we talk of sharing our experience, stength, and hope with others, because it is all we have to share. The the way I work my program might not work for someone else, but it works for me, and I can't give you advice except by sharing my experience with you.

I know that some people are in a place in their illness where they cannot respond at all, or offer hugs to show they've read the post. I understand that, and I care about the depression each feels that lays us so low.

When I share too much about myself, and cross that boundary into being self-absorbed, I apologize; I am coming out of a tradition where personal sharing is encouraged, and I benefit very much what othes share in these forums.

Sometimes people write that they feel they shouldn't whine, or words to that affect, and we let them know that they are welcome to unburden here and have that cartharsis. For me, there are lessons in all of it, however. I can see the features of this illness in others than I can't see in myself; by seeing it in others, I see more clearly that it IS an illness and not a character failing. I also feel very grateful that people share. And because that sharing and contact with others like myself is so helpful and important, I can only hope that those of us struggling with feelings or wothlessness will know that whatever you are sharing, it is worthwhile to me that you are here on the board and posting.

If any of this makes sense. I should be asleep. I need regular hours and routine. Instead of worry and sleeplessness.